This is me throwing my hands in the air and asking for help from anyone who can offer advice re dealing with dirty protests, ie mucking up (and I mean really ‘mucking up’ bedrooms and beds.
It started with Sausage having an accident in his bed, so I moved him out for the night into the spare bed in Darlek’s room. Then I washed the duvet in the bath, sorted the mattress out, turned it over and put him back in it. This happened again (not really his fault, I forgot to put a nappy on) so again he was put back in Darlek’s room for a couple of nights. Again I washed the duvet etc. Waterproof sheets can only cope with so much mess and it was necessary.
Then he had an accident in the spare bed, so I had to wash the sleeping bag and the thin mattress and he slept top to toe in his sister’s bed while I sorted that. The other duvet wasn’t dry at that point.
After this we had a bust up one bedtime and he ended up crying and screaming and being obnoxious. I left him in Darlek’s room to calm down as that was where he was sleeping, whilst sat on the stairs I peeped in through the door and spotted him purposefully taking his nappy off and weeing on his bed. He was banned from the iPad for a week and wasn’t allowed to choose what he wanted to watch on the TV.
Then I found a puddle of wet stuff on my ‘puter chair (twice) and he eventually admitted it was him. And there were further incidents where I found wet patches on his bedroom floor where he claimed to have spilt a drink (which he definitely hadn’t done). On top of this, as if it wasn’t enough, I have also found a waterproof wash basket with wee washing around at the bottom of it. There’s been far too many incidents to mention them all, and I am at the absolute end of my tether with it all.
To top it all off, last night the little monster had an argument with his dad at bedtime – he always gets really mardy when he’s tired. He demanded 5 bedtime songs, but as it was late Horace said he could have 3 instead (plus his usual bed time stories) so he went mad and shouted and screamed and yelled. Horace did not give into this and said he would only read his stories and let him have his songs if he calmed down. Sausage refused and I heard him shout over and over again ‘I hate you Daddy!’ We ignored him and eventually he calmed down, whereupon Horace let him have his songs and his bed time story and he went to sleep.
This morning he woke up and I think he had revenge on the brain. His duvet is covered in wee and poo, he has smeared it on his cabin bed, he has weed on the floor. It stinks in there. I had to shower him before he went to school and simply told him that we would discuss the consequences of this horrendous behaviour this evening as I think it needs some careful consideration. Twice we have removed iPad privileges for a week, he’s had toys taken off him because of it, TV viewing has been restricted. I don’t know what to do next.
What I do know is that the duvet is beyond repair. I shall bin that today, I suspect the mattress will have to go the same way too very soon. The carpet pongs, I will have to scrub everything somehow. I’m tempted to take all of his toys out of his bedroom until his behaviour improves. I don’t want to offer rewards for not behaving like this because he’ll start thinking that if he misbehaves he’ll be offered nice things.
Help! He’s 4 years old and has just started school. I’m not sure if this is what has unsettled him, then again some elements of this behaviour were going on before he started school, it’s just got worse. I’m disgusted, upset and very angry although I try not to show this to him. I’ve told him he makes me sad, that I’m disappointed, and he just smiles at me with a very evil smirk. I asked him why he did this sort of thing the other day, and he just sidled up to me and whispered ‘Cos I wanted to…’ I’m considering putting him in a tent outside in the back yard to sleep.